Love heals, comforts and creates; all else destroys happiness, self and others. Love is volitional. Thus, a person makes a commitment to be loving; whether or not a loving feeling is present. The person, who truly loves does so because of a decision to love.
The way one chooses to love can be as unique as the way one chooses to make a living, maintain health or engage in entertainment. Many people choose to have a romantic long-term relationship with a special individual; while others find great satisfaction without a romantic short or long-term relationship. There is no wrong or right way to live your life, albeit society tends to put an emphasis on romantic long-term relationships with the legality of marriage. Whether you choose to live life as part of a romantic relationship or as a single unit, there are benefits to both. The key is to be comfortable with what you decide is right for you.
Choosing to live single is a wonderful way to spend time discovering yourself – your strengths, courage, determination, perseverance, and ability to risk. Being single affords the time and space to discover what and how you want your life to be without having to keep someone else’s choices in mind.
Being a single person gives you the freedom to do what you want when you want and the pride that comes with facing life on your own terms. Companionship, support and affection can be found when spending time with friends, colleagues and relatives. There is also the fun that comes with being able to experience many different people without having to make a long-term commitment to one person. Choosing to have a long-term relationship on the other hand, brings with it the opportunity to share your life and learn from each other. There is comfort in the knowledge that you are facing the world with a united front – of course the united front needs to be established. Thus, when life is challenging, you have the opportunity to strengthen, as well as give each other comfort. There is also the inevitable transformation of self that comes from allowing another person to be intimately part of your life.
Unless, one is fortunate to find the person with whom one can create a united front there can be many rough patches along the way. There is testimony to this fact, when one looks at the high divorce and infidelilty statistics.
What is right for one person may not be right for another, and many people transition between the desire to be in a romantic relationship and desiring to be alone many times in the course of their life. Whether one seeks out a romantic relationship or live a single life, embracing it fully will ensure that either choice is fulfilling.
Merle Shain (1935-1989) author and Canadian journalist concluded her book, Some Men Are More Perfect Than Others, “I’ve been married and I’ve beem single. It is six of one and half dozen of another, which is better.”
Dorothy M. Neddermeyer, PhD, Metaphysician – Certified Hypnosis Practitioner, Author and Speaker. Dr. Dorothy facilitates clearing blocks, fears and limiting beliefs. You can live the life you desire. She brings awareness to concepts not typically obvious to one’s thoughts and feelings. http://www.drdorothy.net