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How Feelings and Emotions Affect Your Health
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Feelings and Emotions such as: fear, anger, guilt, shame and sadness can negatively affect your Mind, Body and Spirit long after the original event that created them.
When feelings and emotions have been pushed aside and left unprocessed; the Mind, Body and Spirit become overwhelmed with the energetic weight of them. In order to dispel some of the energetic weight, the Mind, Body and Spirit will manifest unexplained aversions, self-sabotaging behaviors, destructive beliefs, phobias, PTSD, depression, Bi-polar and chronic physical problems from A to Z, which are diagnosed as genetic abnormalities, disease and dysfunction.
Feelings and Emotions Can Be Healed:
We use a protocol called Emotional, Physical and Spiritual Transformation™ (EPST™) a highly effective protocol to identify and assist you to process and ‘let go’ of feelings and emotional patterns that keep you stuck. Thus, you transform the root cause of all feelings, issues and symptoms.
Emotional, Physical and Spiritual Transformatiom™ is based on a proven combination of the scientific research and centuries-old techniques used in holistic healing. By acknowledging the relationship between the Mind, Body and Spirit the emotional health, environment toxicity, nutritional balance and structural integrity is transformed.
EPST™ is direct, focused and combines creating health while transforming the past. It is precise, powerful, virtually effortless and an accurate method to change the landscape of your inner and outer mind, body and spirit. EPST ™ allows you to access your past, present and future – as well as your subconscious to clear negative energy on all levels (beliefs, thoughts, feelings, and emotions) – Mind, Body and Spirit.
Thousands of appreciative clients around the world enjoy better health and well-being after releasing and transforming their emotional, physical and spiritual dis-ease (a.k.a. distress) ###
About the Author:
Dorothy M. Neddermeyer, PhD, Metaphysician – Certified Hypnosis and Regression Practitioner, Author and Speaker. Dr. Dorothy facilitates clearing blocks, fears and limiting beliefs as well as restoring your Mind, Body and Spirit back to vibrant health. You can live the life you desire. She facilitates Past Life Regression, Life Between Lives and Future Life Progression. She is featured in the documentary The Business of DisEase. She was a World Regression Congress faculty member in the Netherlands, India, Braziland Turkey. http://www.drdorothy.net http://facebook.com/DrDorothyNed http://teamasea.com/drdorothy http://empowernetwork.com/drdorothy
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Move It or Lose It: 5 Moves to Put Seniors Back in the Game
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Guest Blog: Move It or Lose It: 5 Moves to Put Seniors Back in the Game
For Americans 65 and older, falling down can be the worst thing to happen to them, according to statistics from the National Council on Aging:
• One in three seniors experiences a significant fall each year
• Every 18 seconds, a senior is admitted into an emergency room after losing balance and hitting the ground
• Every 35 minutes, an elderly person dies from a fall — the leading cause of death for seniors
“The projected cost in health-care expenses for 2020 due to fall-related injuries in the United States is $55 billion,” says Karen Peterson, a therapist with multiple certifications, and author of “Move With Balance: Healthy Aging Activities for Brain and Body,” (www.MoveWithBalance.org). She’s also the founder and director of Giving Back, a nonprofit organization that grows and spreads programs that support senior health.
“It’s important for seniors to keep moving and learning, that’s what helps improve balance and coordination, and even helps build new neural pathways,” says Peterson, who emphasizes the cognitive importance to her workout programs. “But if you’re rather frail, or just very fearful of falling, you’re less likely to get up and move around.” These activities benefit all seniors, from 55 to 105.
Peterson says a fun, social program of games and activities that include exercises specifically designed for seniors helps them address multiple issues, including those that tend to keep seniors sedentary – which only lessens their strength and balance.
Last year, her program was independently evaluated from Hawaii’s Department of Heath, which found a statistically significant reduction in falls from seniors – 38 percent. It also won the MindAlert Award from the American Society on Aging.
“Seniors of all ages need to continually work on improving their balance, coordination, strength, vision and cognitive skills. When they do, they’re less likely to fall – and more able to enjoy life.”
Peterson suggests these moves, which address many different areas of the body:
• The cross-crawl: After various light warm-ups, begin with the basic cross-crawl, which focuses on the fundamentals of balance. March in place, lifting the knees high. At the same time, reach across and touch the lifted knee with the opposite hand or elbow; alternate and keep going. This can be done sitting, standing or lying down. Once any of these exercises are mastered, Peterson says, participants should continue to challenge themselves. For even greater balance work, and to exercise the vestibular system, close your eyes and count backwards from 100 by threes. “It’s not fun if you’re not conquering a challenge,” she says. Her book includes several challenges for each exercise.
• Forward toe-touch dancer: To improve motor skills, physical coordination and cognition, there are many dance exercises that are appropriate for seniors. If needed, use a chair for assistance. Place your feet shoulder-width apart. Now, simultaneously extend your left foot and your right arm forward. Keep your left toes pointed down, touching the floor; or for more difficulty, maintain the toes a few inches off the floor. Repeat this move with your left arm and right foot. Hold each pose for several seconds, and increase holding time.
• Sensory integration – the arrow chart: Look at an arrow chart and call out the direction indicated by each individual symbol. Then, thrust your arms in that direction; in other words, say and do what the arrow indicates. For an additional challenge, do the opposite of what the arrow indicates.
• Side-step walk: Walk sidestepping – bring your right foot across the left and step down three to five inches away from the left foot, ankles crossed. The closer the feet, the harder it is to balance. Alternate crossing the foot in front and then behind the other foot as you move along; repeat several times, then do the same with opposite feet. As a bonus challenge, try a reading exercise from a vision card, designed for stimulating the brain/visual system, while sidestepping.
• The cat jump: This activity is practice in case of a fall; the muscle memory of the movement will be etched in your body. Bend your knees in a squat. Jump a little off the ground with both feet, and land softly, like a cat, without jarring your body. Repeat until you are confident in your ability to prevent a spill.
“Research shows that most falls are preventable,” Peterson says. “These and other exercises, performed regularly, are a great way to achieve safety and a revitalized lifestyle.”
About Karen Peterson
Karen Peterson is founder and director of Giving Back, a nonprofit organization dedicated to improving the lives of elders through inter-generational mentoring. She has multiple certifications, including educational kinesiologist, natural vision improvement instructor, Touch for Health instructor and a massage therapist. For 25 years, Peterson has been teaching these modalities to children, business people, athletes, classroom teachers and adults of all ages and occupations.
Are You Looking For A ‘Quick Fix’ For A Problem?
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If the house in on fire; call the fire department. Everything else needs time and focus to create the most effective solution. You might think you do not have time or money for anything, but, a ‘quick fix.’ The question is: Do you have the time and money to clean up the mess left by a failed ‘quick fix?’
What Is The Solution?
Consider reversing the equation—look for the most effective solution from the ‘get go.’ In the first moments of realizing something is awry follow these steps.
- Pause: Quell your ‘fear’ [fight and flight] and your instinct to shoot from the hip.
- Acknowledge: What aspects of the issue need to be resolved:
- Discover: What part of the issue you are responsible for creating and solving. When you accept responsibility you are empowered to discover the solution.
- Ask for assistance: The majority of issues are multi-layered and require cooperation from others—home or work. Determine who is best suited to assist in each aspect of the solution. Enlist their assistance.
- See the humor: More often than not the issue has irony in the equation. Laughter is the best antidote to shift the mind-set to an inventive, problem solving state.
- Accept the unknown: The unknown, a.k.a uncertainty, is the launch pad to success in problem-solving, accept it with enthusiasm.
Armed with these easy to implement problem solving steps you will recognize the ‘quick fix’ method seldom saves time or money. Enjoy the journey while creating ‘fixes’ [solution]that work long-term. ###
Dorothy M. Neddermeyer, PhD mentors and empowers executives and entrepreneurs worldwide to experience their highest potential through an original and leading-edge focus on cultural factors, empowered communication, effective decision making, negotiation, and discovering and resolving mental blocks, fears and self-hindering beliefs. http://drdorothy.net
Choices—Manage Them or Be Managed By Them—Your Choice
Posted by: | CommentsChoices—Manage Them or Be Managed By Them—Your Choice
The majority of people focus on managing time, which is a misunderstanding of metaphysics—a.k.a. Universal Laws. The Universal Laws are all inter-related and are founded on the understanding that everything is energy, including humans, and that energy moves in a circular fashion. At the microscopic level, we are a whirling mass of electrons and energy atoms spinning rapidly. In fact, everything in the world is comprised of energy and we are intimately connected with this vast sea of energy, a sea of whirling electrons.
Your beliefs, thoughts, feelings, words and actions are all forms of energy. What you choose to believe, think, feel, say and do in each moment comes back to you to create your reality. Energy moves in a circle, so what goes around comes around. The combined beliefs, thoughts, feelings, words and actions of everyone on the planet creates our collective consciousness. Your choices create the world you see.
The good news is, because your beliefs, thoughts, feelings, words and actions create the world around you, you have the power to create the world you desire—peace, harmony, and abundance in spite of what others do or do not do. In order to do this, it is essential that you learn to choose your beliefs, thoughts, emotions and actions to create the reality you desire.
In order to maintain a high level of home and work efficiency, it is imperative you manage your choices. It might seem crazy that what you choose to focus your attention on can make a huge impact on your daily accomplishments, however, it does.
The Gallop Corporation reported that fewer than 45 percent of workers are fully engaged in their jobs at any given time. This means that at any given time 55 percent of workers are dis-engaged in their jobs.
One of the key reasons is the number of interruptions individuals encounter every day. At work and at home, your life is filled with deterrents of all varieties, causing you to break concentration on what you are doing to focus on something someone else thinks is important now.
To maintain or increase efficiency, you need to reduce unnecessary, often self-imposed, demands so that you can spend the required focus and energy on what is most important to accomplish your goals and/or commitments. You need to accept that ultimately you are the only one responsible for what you choose to focus your attention toward.
There are three (3) poignant and effective choices to maintain or increase your efficiency and success:
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Prioritize:
-Make a list of your current commitments and due dates.
-Ask yourself if these are the priorities you most want or need to accomplish
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Organize:
-Divide large tasks into small, incremental steps
-Set up a systematic plan to complete the tasks by the due date
-Say, ‘No’ to non-essential tasks while focusing on each priority item
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Simplify:
-Volunteer for one-time projects, avoid multi-year commitments
-Hire services; such as: grocery, dry cleaning, and laundry delivery; lawn and pool service
-Work-life balance is achieved through organization, sans overbooking; thereby scheduling work and home activities each day that you truly enjoy.
Everything in life is a choice—choose well.
QUIT your Tobacco HABIT This WEEK – $70 discount
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While the TV commercials to quit tobacco habit paint a picture it easy breezy to quit; if you take this pill, chew this gum or use this patch and your tobacco habit will disappear is misleading. There is more than only a tobacco habit.
Quitting a tobacco habit, whether it is smoking, smokeless—chewing or snuff, it is a significantly important step. There is no one simple reason someone decided to use tobacco as a way to cope in life. Therefore, it is important to discover and resolve the issue(s) at the core—the root cause.
A protocol which addresses all aspects of the tobacco habit, emotional/mental, physical, nutritional and relational provides a highly successful experience.
In this practical and effective protocol the total emotional/mental, physical, nutritional and relational issues are addressed—such as exercise, food plan, vitamins and minerals, stress, and dis-ease.
Dr Dorothy offers a 20 minute FREE NO obligation consultation to answer your questions and discuss the protocol. Why wait…? You regain your health and peace of mind.
This week only – $70 discount. drdorothy@drdorothy.net
Dorothy M Neddermeyer, PhD facilitates Hypnosis, an effective protocol to transform the root cause of all issues and symptoms. Emotional, Physical and Spiritual Transformation (EPST) is direct, focused and combines creating health and happiness while transforming the past. You can clear negative energy, blocks, anxiety, phobias and fears. Past Life Regression work by request. http://drdorothy.net
More Than Five Children Die As A Result of Child Abuse Every Day In the U.S
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Every day in the United States, more than five children die as a result of child abuse. Child abuse includes verbal, emotional, physical and sexual as well as neglect.
Child Abuse occurs in every socioeconomic status, across all ethnic and cultural lines, within all religions, including clergy within these religions, educators, and by people of every education level. While April is designated as National Child Abuse Prevention Month, it is lip service at best and misleading at worst. The rest of the year everyone pretends that only children in the ghetto or uneducated parents abuse their children.
If a disease killed or maimed as many children as abuse does; the AMA would declare a pandemic; Pharmaceutical companies would be awarded billions of dollars to develop a vaccine or pill to numb the pain or body parts are cut out—and it is a well-known fact—vaccines, pills and cutting out body parts cures nothing.
Sadly, child abuse, is not a platform that you will find popular with politicians or a topic of conversation at social gatherings. However, having guns in the hands of every citizen that frequently ultimately kill innocent people, including children is a hot topic.
More children die each year at the hands of their parents than from irresponsible gun use. I am not advocating that gun management is unnecessary; I am illuminating the crisis of child abuse in contrast to the hot topic of gun management.
The after effects of child abuse are devastating, far-reaching and the dots of cause and effect of the devastation is seldom considered when the after effect symptoms are expressed in so-called physical and mental diseases.
Child abuse After effects include poor academic performance, difficulty maintaining healthy relationships, Anxiety, Panic, Depression, Bi-polar, Post Traumatic Stress, Lupus, Fibromyalgia, Cancer, Diabetes, High Blood Pressure, Migraine Headaches, and Arthritis are just a few of the after effects child abuse survivors cope with. See the extensive list of effects here…
Healing is possible. It is important to work with a practitioner, who can address these complicated after effects through a process of Emotional, Physical and Spiritual Transformation (EPST) a highly effective protocol to Transform the root cause of all issues and symptoms. EPST is direct, focused and combines creating health while transforming the past. It is precise, powerful, virtually effortless and an accurate method to change the landscape of your inner and outer mind, body and spirit. EPST allows you to access your past, present and future – as well as your subconscious to clear negative energy on all levels (beliefs, thoughts & feelings) – Mind, Body and Spirit. ###
About the Author:
Dorothy M. Neddermeyer, PhD, Metaphysician – Certified Hypnosis and Regression Practitioner, Author and Speaker. Dr. Dorothy facilitates clearing blocks, fears and limiting beliefs as well as restoring your Mind, Body and Spirit back to vibrant health. You can live the life you desire. She facilitates Past Life Regression, Life Between Lives and Future Life Progression. She is featured in the documentary The Business of DisEase. She was a World Regression Congress faculty member in the Netherlands, India, Braziland Turkey. http://www.drdorothy.net http://facebook.com/DrDorothyNed http://teamasea.com/drdorothy http://empowernetwork.com/drdorothy
What Is Your Band Of Consciousness?
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What Is Your Band Of Consciousness
People exchange something for something else on a constant basis. The definition of exchange includes—to swap, switch, replace, trade, barter and substitute. In the third dimension we exchange time, skills, expertise and knowledge for money. We exchange money for products and services.
In conversation exchange is defined as talk, chat, discuss, argue or have an altercation. Both of these points of view, in the meaning of exchange, an underlying issue comes into play, which involves the element of engagement in the consciousness of exchange. The question is—What is involved in this exchange of engagement?
There is a simple, albeit, complex answer. Is it power or force that is being exchanged between individuals, businesses, cultures and/or countries? When it is force, the exchange side of force results in someone or a group either being controlled or manipulated. This is an unproductive and negative exchange of energy.
In this exchange style, looking at it from both a metaphoric and physical perspective of Quantum Physics and the String Theory, everything is made of up strings and emits a vibration and frequency. Michio Kaku, Astrophysicist, author, Parallel Worlds, states, “…if we had a super-microscope that could peer into the heart of an electron, we would see that it was not a point particle at all; but, a tiny vibrating string. This tiny string, in turn, vibrates at different frequencies and resonances.”
With this awareness you could consider that these strings are bands of consciousness, which when ‘exchanged’ between individuals, groups, businesses, countries, etc. based on a consciousness of control and manipulation, will elicit a vibration and frequency of fear.
This fear frequency becomes a band of consciousness, which then emits resentment, hatred, rebellion as the exchange of energy of force. In a control and manipulation force, there is no power or empowerment. It is simply fear based, non-productive and eventually debilitating for all those involved in the exchange of consciousness and energy. No one resonates with each other. It is force creating an opposite and equal force. The conversational energy is disagreeable and thus, the relationships are based on disagreement.
When the strings or bands of consciousness are founded on power for all involved, a successful practical exchange of higher consciousness and higher vibration occurs. All those involved feel the harmonics and begin to resonate with each other. There is no energy exchange of control or manipulation. Therefore, everyone is on the same wave length to achieve personal, group and/or business successes. The resonance of everyone’s strings or bands of connection becomes both metaphorically and physically supportive as opposed to adversarial when control and manipulation is the core intent. Positive exchanges, positive relationships, positive conversations, positive successes are the inherent results.
Leadership – Margaret Thatcher
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Margaret Thatcher, Britain’s first female prime minister, who changed her country and the world, sometimes for better, sometimes for worse. She was known as the Iron Lady, but she also had ovaries of steel, a tin ear and, at times, a heart of stone. Love her or hate her, she taught us some important lessons about leadership – especially about how to lead by being unreasonable.
The Power of Unreasonable People: Mrs Thatcher was called the Iron Lady because of her formidably strong will. Once she decided that something needed to be done, nothing was going to stop her. As she put it, at a moment when her followers were having second thoughts and wanted a U-turn, “you turn if you want to; the Lady is not for turning.” She was one of those leaders who achieve change by being what George Bernard Shaw famously called “unreasonable people”, in the sense that “reasonable people adapt themselves to the world. Unreasonable people attempt to adapt the world to themselves.” Shaw believed that all human progress was the result of these unreasonable people.
Ovaries of Steel: To be an unreasonable leader requires tremendous personal strength of character and a willingness to take risks. Mrs Thatcher (later Lady Thatcher) took charge at a time of great despair about Britain’s future, with the economy in a mess and a widespread belief at home and abroad that the country was no longer a world power. She challenged head on the conventional wisdom that nothing could be done with policies ranging from privatizing large chunks of the public sector to refusing to allow Argentina’s invasion of the Falkland Islands to succeed.
At the time, many people found this bold style of leadership surprising for a woman, though Mrs Thatcher was merely “leaning in” and taking charge long before Sheryl Sandberg recommended it. This sort of leadership can be extraordinarily inspiring, as MrsThatcher showed, especially to others who have become disillusioned with the existing situation and with other leaders who spout the conventional wisdom that nothing can be done. A few highly motivated people can defeat a vast number of unmotivated people who believe they are stuck with the status quo.
Tin Ear: When you are defying the conventional wisdom, it can help to be a little deaf. You cannot afford to be distracted by all the noise around you. A little blind, too. Admiral Nelson famously put his telescope to his blind eye to avoid seeing a signal from his commander telling him he could retreat from a battle. Yet this can have its downsides: a truly deaf leader fails to make good use of feedback loops that can provide valuable information.
For instance, Mrs Thatcher was clearly surprised by the strength of the rebellion among her own supporters that led them ultimately to ditch her as their leader; had she been a good listener, she would perhaps have been able to address the causes of the unrest, and save herself. The lesson here for aspiring leaders is that the tin ear is useful occasionally as a tactic, but it is crucial you do not become truly deaf to what is going on around you.
Heart of Stone: To many people, including myself growing up, Mrs Thatcher came across as uncaring and even heartless. People who knew her personally say this was far from the reality, as was illustrated well by the scene in the recent film, “Iron Lady”, starring Meryl Streep as Mrs Thatcher, where she personally wrote letters of thanks and sympathy to the families of every member of the armed forces who died during the Falklands campaign.
Perhaps given the controversial nature of the changes she wanted, which caused disruption and pain to many families and communities in parts of the country where public sector jobs were axed, she was bound to be seen as heartless by some people. And it must be hard to maintain a spirit of compassion when, as in Mrs Thatcher’s case, many people publicly shout about their hatred of you, and your life is nearly taken by terrorists. Leading change can require a thick skin, for sure.
Yet, I believe, Mrs Thatcher contributed to her unpopularity among a large part of the British population through her failure to do more to ease the pain of those who suffered most from her policies, such as coal mining towns which lost their mines, and by the apparent harshness of some of her public statements, such as calling trade unions the “enemy within” and saying “there is no such thing as society”. As a result, some of the sensible changes she introduced remains unappreciated, even though four subsequent prime ministers have continued with them largely intact. This helps explain why Britons are not united in affection for their late leader in the way Americans were when Ronald Reagan died.
Even so, if you want to be an unreasonable leader, one lesson is that you can not expect to be popular or to get much gratitude.
But when does it make sense to adopt an “unreasonable” leadership style?
Mrs Thatcher succeeded because, first, there was clearly a massive problem with things as they were. Thus, a significant number of people were willing to accept that change was needed, even if they were not clear about what had to be done. Second, she came up with a solution that worked – not perfectly, but well enough that many of her changes remain largely in place over two decades after she was ousted. Had she been more selective with her tin ear, and demonstrated more compassion to those who were being hurt by the process of change, the end of her career might have been happier, and her memory more widely celebrated.
-Do you face a situation where big change is needed?
-Do you have a workable solution?
-Do you have ovaries of steel or balls of steel?
Then maybe this is your moment to get in touch with your inner Iron Lady and be an unreasonable leader. But take care how you use that tin ear, and never let your heart turn to stone. ### Matthew Bishop
Empowered Communication
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Healthy relationships are one of the major pillars for a happy, healthy personal and professional life. It is ironic then that the education of children and young adults is devoid of teaching effective communication skills. Of course, we are taught grammar and punctuation, however, that is content. The process is the most critical aspect of communication.
Verbal messages are delivered by words, tone of voice and body language. Do you know which one carries the most impact for the listener?
Do you know who has the most influence in a conversation—the speaker or the listener?
Do you know the 5 mistakes the majority of people make in verbal communication?
Empowered Communication sets forth:
- Twelve (12) Communication styles
- Conflict resolution strategy
- How to manage criticism from others
- How to deliver feedback without judging or criticizing.
- How to mitigate and manage manipulative communication styles.
- How to gain trust.
- How to negotiate win/win outcomes.
Is your personal and professional communication going as smoothly as you desire? If not, you need a refresher or you simply need clear, concise skills. With effective communication skills you can manage every conversation from simple to complex with ease. Contact: drdorothy@drdorothy.net for the next Empowered Communication teleseminar date.
Adult Survivor Of Sexual Abuse – Aftereffects Checklist
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Have you ever wondered or do you know if you are an Adult Survivor Of Sexual Abuse? If you have wondered; this check list will assist you to clarify your thoughts, feelings and behavior or habits. If you checked one or more of these behaviors or symptoms, there is a high probability you are an Adult Survivor Of Sexual Abuse.
If you know you are an Adult Survivor Of Sexual Abuse, this Aftereffect Checklist will confirm that you are not making things up. What you experienced then created the beliefs, thoughts and feelings you experience now and you are not crazy. If only one item in these statements is true—simply underline that portion and check it.
____1. Fear of being alone in the dark, or sleeping alone; night mares, night terrors (especially of pursuit, threat, entrapment).
____2. Swallowing and gagging sensitivity; repugnance to water on one’s face when bathing/shower or swimming (sense of suffocation).
____3. Alienation from the body—not at home in own body; failure to heed body signals or take care of one’s body; poor body image; manipulating body size (extreme weight loss, obesity, baggy clothes, pinning clothes shut, because buttons or zippers could fail) to avoid sexual attention.
____4. Gastrointestinal problems; gynecological disorders (including spontaneous vaginal infections); headaches; arthritis or joint pain.
____5. Wearing a lot of clothing, even in summer; baggy clothes, failure to remove clothing even when appropriate to do so (while swimming, bathing/shower, sleeping); extreme requirements for privacy when using bathroom. Difficulty using public lavatory.
____6. Eating disorders, drug or alcohol abuse (or total abstinence): other addictions, compulsive behaviors; OCD.
____7. Self-destructiveness; skin carving, self-abuse, piercing, tattoo.
____8. Phobias
____9. Need to be invisible, perfect, or ‘perfectly bad.’
____10. Suicidal thoughts, attempts, death obsession (including ‘passive suicide’)
____11. Depression–a.k.a diagnoses Bi-polar (sometimes paralyzing); seemingly baseless crying
____12. Anger issues: inability to recognize, own, or express anger, fear of actual or imagined rage; constant anger, intense hostility toward entire gender or ethnic group of the perpetrator.
____13. Splitting (depersonalization): going into shock, shutdown in crisis; a stressful situation means a crisis; psychic numbing; physical pain or numbness associated with a particular memory, emotions (i.e. anger), or situation (i.e. sexual activity).
____14. Rigid control of one’s thought process humorlessness or extreme solemnity.
____15. Childhood hiding, hanging on, cowering in corners (security-seeking behaviors); adult nervousness over being watched or surprised; feeling watched; startle response.
____16. Trust issues: inability to trust (trust is not safe); total trust; trusting indiscriminately.
____17. High risk taking (‘daring fates’) inability to take risks.
____18. Boundary issues; control, power, territoriality issues; fear of losing control; obsessive/compulsive behaviors (attempt to control things that don’t matter, need to control something).
____19. Guilt, shame; low self-esteem, humiliation; feeling worthless; high appreciation of small favors by others.
____20. Pattern of being a victim (victimizing oneself after being victimized by others), especially sexually; no sense of own power or right to set limits or say no; pattern of relationships with much older persons (onset in adolescence).
____21. Feeling demand to ‘produce and be loved;’ instinctively knowing and doing what the other person needs or wants; relationships mean big trade offs (love was taken, not given).
____22. Abandonment issues.
____23. Blocking out some period of early years (especially 1-12), or a specific person or place.
____24. Sense of carrying an awful secret; urge to tell, fear of its being revealed; certainty that no one will listen; being generally secretive; feeling ‘marked’ (scarlet letter’).
____25. Feeling crazy; feeling different; feeling oneself to be unreal and everyone else to be real, or vice versa; creating fantasy worlds, relationships, or identities (especially for women; imagining or wishing self to be male, someone else; i.e. not a victim)
____26. Denial: no awareness at all; psychogenic amnesia (commonly called repressed memory); pretending; minimizing (‘It wasn’t that bad.’); having dreams or memories (‘Maybe it is my imagination’); strong, deep, ‘inappropriate’ negative reactions to a person, place or event; ‘sensory flashes’ (a light, a place, a physical sensation) without a sense of its meaning; remembering the surroundings, but not the event.
____27. Sexual issues; sex feels ‘dirty;’ aversion to being touched, especially gynecological exam; strong aversion to (or need for) particular sex acts; feeling betrayed by one’s body; trouble integrating sexuality and emotionality; confusion or overlapping of affection, sex, dominance, aggression and violence; having to pursue power in sexual arena, which is actually sexual acting out (self abuse and manipulation, especially among women; abuse of others, especially among men); compulsively ‘seductive’ or compulsively asexual; a need to be sexual aggressor or cannot be sexual; impersonal, ‘promiscuous’ sex with strangers concurrent with inability to have sex in intimate relationship (conflict between sex, caring and intimacy); prostitute, stripper, ‘sex symbol,’ (Marilyn Monroe, Jayne Mansfield, Anna Nicole Smith—famous sex symbols and sexual abuse survivors) porn actress; sexual acting out to meet anger or revenge needs; ‘sexaholism;’ avoidance; shutting down; crying after orgasm; all pursuit feels like violation; sexualizing of meaningful relationships; erotic response to abuse or anger, sexual fantasies of dominance or rape.
____28. Pattern of ambivalence or intensely conflictive relationships (intimacy is an issue; also focus shifted from sexual abuse or incest issues).
____29. Avoidance of mirrors (connected with invisibility, shame/self-esteem issues, distrust of perceived body image).
____30. Desire to change one’s name (to disassociate from the perpetrator or to take control through self-labeling).
____31. Limited tolerance for happiness; active withdrawal from happiness, reluctance to trust happiness (Happiness is short lived. ‘Ice is thin—can’t be trusted).
____32. Aversion to making noise (including during sex, crying, laughing, or other body functions); verbal hyper-vigilance (careful monitoring of one’s words); quiet-voice, especially when needing to be heard. Can’t trust one’s needs would be heard.
____33. Stealing (adults); stealing and starting fires (children).
____34. Multiple personality (a.k.a. Dissociative Disorder)
____35. Chronic illness, but not limited to: Arthritis, Breast Cancer, Diabetes, Fibromyalgia, Lupus, Migraine headaches, MS, OCD, Ovarian Cancer, Pancreatic Cancer, Rectal Cancer, Testicular Cancer, TMJ, Tumor, Vaginal Cancer.
If you have ever wondered if or you know you are an adult survivor of sexual abuse, the articles listed will provide a thorough understanding of your experience and information on how to complete your recovery. Contrary to popular belief and many TV talk show proclamations, recovery is possible. The recovery process holds the promise that all aftereffects will be transformed into peace of mind, happiness, wholeness and thriving versus a perpetual survivor.
Recovery Is Possible:
Contrary to popular belief and many TV talk show proclamations, recovery is possible. The recovery process holds the promise that all aftereffects will be transformed into peace of mind, happiness, wholeness and thriving versus a perpetual survivor.
Transforming the deep, profound and pervasive wounds of an Adult Survivor of Sexual Abuse requires Mind, Body, Spirit multifaceted recovery. Talk therapy and pills are inadequate to address these deep, profound and pervasive wounds. Dorothy M Neddermeyer, PhD developed and facilitates a highly effective protocol to meet the demands for sexual abuse recovery. Her protocol addresses all levels of Emotional, Physical and Spiritual Transformation (EPST) effectively transforms the root cause of all issues and symptoms. EPST is direct, focused and combines creating health while transforming the past. It is precise, empowering, virtually effortless and an accurate method to change the landscape of your inner and outer mind, body and spirit. EPST allows you to access your past, present and future – as well as your subconscious, and clear negative energy on all levels – Mind, Body and Spirit.
Additional Information:
- Adult Survivor of Sexual Abuse – Emotional Aftereffects
- Adult Survivor of Sexual Abuse – Physical Aftereffects
- Adult Survivor of Sexual Abuse – Mental Aftereffects
- Adult Survivor of Sexual Abuse – Behavioral Aftereffect
- Adult Survivor of Sexual Abuse – Spiritual Aftereffect
- Adult Survivor of Sexual Abuse – Sexual Aftereffects
- Adult Survivor of Sexual Abuse – Relating Aftereffects
